In my last post, I talked about how children can't help but learn societal roles, norms, and values from play. Yet all over the world, many children with disabilities will not be included in traditional games like Antoakyere. A lot won't play tag. Or football.
In fact, most children with disabilities will not be included in their communities or in society at large. In Ghana, less than 6% receive a primary education. So what, then, do these children learn? I'll let someone else answer.
Interview with Ziblim, age 24. Northern Region. Treasurer, UCC Association for Students with Disabilities; Executive Board Member, Ghana National Union of Students with Disabilities
Ziblim is the “younger” twin. In Ghana, the twin born first is considered the youngest - sent by the older twin to come out first to observe before following. Ziblim’s brother is Al’Hassan. They are 2 of 6 children by their mother – who is their father’s fourth wife. “I can’t quote exactly the number of people I have in my family…unfortunately, out of this lot, I’ve been the only person who has gone to school.”At four, circumstances still unknown resulted in physical disability. His grandmother encouraged him. "She put me up. I was literally on the floor – and that way I started moving around." Now, he is a wheelchair user.
He describes his attempts to socialize with his peers, and the effect this had upon his family. “My parents found it very difficult to understand me, that whatever my colleagues did I also tried doing that. To the extent that when my colleagues were playing football you would see me there playing with my hand. It would bother them so much…they never liked that.”There is no disability awareness in his community, Nyankpala, but many people with disabilities. Ziblim related that in this environment, “People like us suffer, from the family and from the community. He later adds, “Generally, in the community, the sort of eyes that will be on you…when there’s a gathering you may not even like to go there. It will force you to isolate yourself from the community. The eyes that will be on you…that alone will make you lose your steps."
Of course, it's not only stigmatisation that causes suffering. So much can come from a simple lack of awareness and misconceptions about disability, ability and possibility.
“My father made two assertions I can’t forget.
“The first assertion: For a disabled person, all we know for you is to go out there and beg. Get yourself out there that people will see you, have pity for you, and get you something. But for you to join your colleagues in playing football, who will pity you, and have mercy on you, not to talk of giving you something?“Later, he saw that education was very important in my life…instead of playing football, all that he expected me to do was to always be on the chair, with my book. That was the second assertion: that I should always be on the chair, with my book.
“That one alone also encouraged me. I know it sounded like as a disabled person, you had nothing to do but to study. But I also saw that learning would really help me. So I really devoted my time… I knew more than my colleagues out there."Ziblim graduated with high honors from secondary and senior secondary school before coming to university. He independently sought the funds that would pay his way through senior secondary, and is currently managing his own university tuition.
Via football metaphor, Ziblim tells me what he has learned.
“If you have competition with someone, play on neutral grounds. If you don’t put in more effort, then you’re playing on someone’s home grounds.“As people with disabilities, we never have our own ‘home’ to play. We are always playing away – at the home of our opponent. Already that person has the advantage over you. It is our own personal effort that brings us to neutral grounds. Effort will neutralize the whole situation. Not from the environment – don’t depend on the environment. Put in your own efforts, and the environment in turn will respond to that.”
Throughout Ghana, there are sacred groves and sacred trees with tremendous religious importance. In Rhumsiki, Cameroon, there are "trees of words", beneath which different groups gather to discuss issues or settle disagreements.
Traditions bind us together, and are the roots of our culture and society. But a tree without roots deep enough to support its surface area becomes unstable. James R. Ure contends that “the same is true if we stubbornly stop growing…thinking that we know it all already and can therefore stop adapting…failing to dig deeper to create stronger roots that widen out into a broad network of stability.”
Ziblim says this: “How sure am I that I will be able to persevere, go through, pass through all these people and become someone one day? At the end, I will be the best. It’s really funny – I never saw myself as someone with a disability.
“What I just want to put across is the self-determination here…I think I have it in me. I have this self-determination. Because whatever be the case, I accept I must make it.”
"As a future volunteer who would like to work with human beings, they should help get people to realize their own capabilities...and feel they are included and part of the world.”